We don’t fight that often, but when we do, it always turns into so much more than it needed to. I blame him (of course) and he blames me. I think what’s really going on is that we have incompatible fighting styles.
He just can’t let it go. I only want to let it go.
He wants to talk it out to death. I want to remain silent and never revisit it again.
He prefers to yell and talk over me. I prefer to talk low, make sarcastic remarks and pretend like I’m on the “no yelling” high road.
He can stay mad for days. I can stay mad for about 30 seconds.
He likes to tell me what I’m thinking. I like to tell him he’s wrong.
He’ll fight anywhere (Santa Claus parade, hello?) I’ll fight at home only.
He’ll use words like “always” and “never”. I’ll say things like “what’s wrong with you?” and “you need help”.
He’ll resort to name-calling. I’ll pretend to be wounded.
He apologizes, but always expects an apology in return. I stand by the “love means never having to say I’m sorry” rule.
He can be bought out of anger with SwissChalet. I silently declare victory.
How about you? How do you fight?